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What is Bullying and How Can It Impact You During High School?

Have you been a bystander of bullying, been called a bully, or maybe think someone is targeting you?

To tackle this important issue affecting hundreds of children and teens Australia-wide every year, this article will outline what bullying is, why it happens and how you can prevent it.

Whether you’re a target, bystander, bully, or want to learn more, this article contains important information, so read on!

What is bullying?
What isn’t considered bullying?
The Different Types
What does bullying look like?
How to Stop Bullying
Why does it happen?

What is bullying?

Bullying is repeated, routine and deliberate attacks on a person’s mental and sometimes physical wellbeing by another person or group of people. It is a misuse of power with an end to cause psychological harm. 

Unfortunately, it is very common; three in five Australian children and teens said they experienced bullying in 2018, with one in five saying they experienced it once a week. 

This article will primarily focus on bullying that happens in real life, although cyberbullying is a wide-spread occurrence today. School, home or extracurricular activity settings can make it especially easy for bullies to attack, because they are closed environments with a consistent group of people. 

It can be hard to narrow bullying down to one definition, because bullies come in all shapes and forms, and may even appear nice on the surface. However, clearly defining it is important, because it allows you to identify when it’s happening, and take the necessary steps to fix the problem. 

What isn’t considered bullying?

Bullying isn’t: 

#1: Mutual conflict

Fighting with someone is not bullying, as you’re both usually contributing to the conflict for personal reasons. Mutual conflict may evolve into it though when it involves a repeated misuse of power by one party over the other to cause harm. 

#2: Single episode attacks

Bullying is repeated and routine, slowly wearing away at a person’s wellbeing and causing distress. Single episode attacks aren’t bullying unless they evolve into something more consistent. 

#3: Social rejection or dislike

Social rejection and dislike cannot necessarily be defined as ‘bullying’ unless they involve repeated attacks to cause distress and dislike for a certain person, such as spreading lies or public humiliation.

What are the different types?

Bullying can be verbal (using words), physical (using force), social (manipulating others to believe false truths), and online

What is bullying? - Types

#1: Verbal

This type includes repeated name-calling, insults and abuse with the intent of causing psychological harm. This may be verbal i.e. spoken out loud, or written, i.e. on social media or over text, or both. 

#2: Physical

Physical bullying may include hitting or pushing, but also involves subtler forms of violence such as poking or tripping.

#3: Social 

Social or covert bullying involves psychological manipulation of the target and others. Bullies may spread rumours and lies, play horrible jokes, incite public humiliation, gaslight, or deliberately exclude their target from group activities.

This type is easier to conceal than other forms of bullying, and wreaks some of the worst psychological damage. It is important to question whether someone in your life is acting in this way and causing you distress without you even noticing.  

#4: Cyber

Cyberbullying occurs online, including via text and email, or on social media platforms. It can include actions like malicious comments, online harassment or invasion of privacy, death threats, and sharing embarrassing or distressing photos. 

What does bullying look like?

It can look like any of the above forms of power misuse and/or violence, and can happen to anyone of any age. Unfortunately, the those on the receiving end often don’t show or tell anyone that they’re being treated in such a way because they may feel embarrassed, scared or weak. 

As a bystander, you may be able to tell if someone is being bullied if they:

    • Don’t want to go to school
    • Are unusually secretive or quiet
    • Have physical injuries (bruises, cuts, etc)
    • Appear over sensitive
    • Other elements of their lives are affected e.g poor grades
    • Have angry outbursts 
    • Lose interest in their normal interests 
    • Have higher anxiety levels 
    • Become isolated and withdrawn from normal social circles 

Also importantly, bullying is also more common among certain minorities of children and teens. These particularly include those: 

    • With disability
    • From culturally and linguistically diverse backgrounds 
    • Who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and gender diverse, or children who have intersex variations


Bullying can have substantial short and long term effects on children’s mental, physical, psychological and social wellbeing. Of course, these impacts vary depending on their role, from victim to bully to bystander. 

Adolescents who are bullied are more likely to experience feelings of loneliness, anxiety, depression and even a higher risk of suicide and self harm than others, a 2017 study found.

Victims are also likely to perform poorly academically, become socially isolated at school and have an increased risk of substance abuse. 

On the other hand, students who frequently and persistently oppress or intimidate others are at a higher risk of engaging in criminal offence and substance abuse, more likely to have poor educational and employment outcomes and at higher risk of depression later in life

A 2011 study of 700 Victorian students found that engaging in bullying behaviour in Year 10 was associated with an increased likelihood of theft, violent behaviour and binge drinking.

How to Stop Bullying

Luckily there are many ways to stop bullying from happening in the moment, though they may be easier said than done. 

    • Walk away and don’t fight back 
    • Avoid the bully if possible 
    • Use strong assertive statements to stand up to the bully using “I”. For example, “I want you to stop doing that.”

Though if you are continually being targeted, these are things you can do:

    • Talk to an adult you trust
    • Talk to a friend you trust  
    • Take someone you trust with you when you seek help or talk to the bully
    • Talk to KidsHelpline, Lifeline or headspace via phone or web chat
    • If it’s violent or threatening to someone’s life, tell the police

Remember that this isn’t something you have to deal with alone. Seeking support is necessary to help you overcome or heal from the situation.

If someone you know is being bullied, you can help get them out of the situation. Studies show that the most effective way of stopping a bully is to motivate bystanders into action.

Most children witness it firsthand yet may not do anything about it; it’s therefore essential that children and teens are taught to stand up to it even when it is not happening to them.

Bullies are likely to target one person because they feel like they have power, but highly unlikely to target several in one scenario. 

Why does it happen?

There are different reasons why people target others, including:

    • Wanting to dominate others and improve their social status
    • Having low self-esteem
    • Having a lack of remorse or failing to recognise their behaviour as a problem
    • Feeling angry or frustrated
    • Struggling socially
    • Being the victim of bullying themselves

Bullies are often victims of external factors, especially in a school setting. However this does not excuse such behaviours, nor is it a reason for those suffering to avoid seeking help!

Seek Help

Organisations like headspace, Lifeline and Kids Helpline offer useful information and numbers to call for teens and children in need. Also find more resources here at The Bully Project. 

Hopefully this article provided some useful insight into what bullying is, and the preventative measures and resources you can use to combat it whether you’re facing it right now or in the future. 

Zara Zadro is a Content Writer for Art of Smart and a current undergraduate student at the University of Sydney. She studies a Bachelor of Arts/Advanced Studies majoring in Media & Communications and English. In her free time, she enjoys reading, listening to music and discovering new parts of Sydney. She has also written for the student publications Honi Soit and Vertigo. After she graduates, Zara hopes to do a Masters in creative writing and live overseas, which she cannot wait for!


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